When No 2. Came along

When i was pregnant with Ryan, i make it a point for Damien to sayang Ryan who was still in my tummy.
I make sure he was involved in the prenatal check ups .. talk to him about being a Big Brother..
When i was pushed out of the delivery ward with Ryan in my arms, Damien stood beside my the bed and asked :-

Damien : Mummy, how are u ?
Me : I am fine, darling. Want to look at 弟弟 ?
Damien : Yes, YES .. Mummy is he a Chinese Boy or Indian Boy ?
Me : !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

When i returned home with Ryan, Damien watch over him everyday.
He request to carry Ryan the moment he's awake.

Carrying 弟弟 for the first time

Coaxing 弟弟 to sleep

Brotherly Love

Patting the little Bro to Zzz

 As times passes, more attention was shown onto Ryan when he learn to turn, crawl, throwing tantrums and walk. Damien suddenly become a problematic boy, he will often shout at Ryan for touching his toys, not drinking his milk, drooling (???) and Damien was constantly yelling at Ryan + everyone.
I was in a dilemma, i had given Damien enough attention and affection why is he feeling this way.
So i decided to bring him out on a 1 to 1 date. We talked about his recent bad attitudes/behaviours. He told me he was sad when everyone shower their attention to Ryan, no one remembers about him.
No one say, Hello Damien anymore .. Everytime someone sees them, the person will say Hello Ryan instead.

We had a good talk that day and i apologized for being sensitive enough to his feelings.
After that day, things got better, no more yelling no more defiance ...
He knows that he must close his door when he's playing the Thomas Train set, building his Legos or doing his artwork with scissors. He will speak softly when Ryan is asleep.
Yesterday night, he heard Ryan cry and rush into my room to coax him, i stood by the door and watched him secretly and it melts my heart to see them together ... Loving again (^,^)

 

 LOVE U BOTH DEARLY ~~~~~~~~~~